Monday, June 30, 2008

Standin' on the corner in Winslow, Arizona

Here are the latest images from the long and winding road home to Chicago. Pat and Rachel are in front of the meteor crater in Arizona. I presume these are a few days old, but the cone of semi- silence has descended upon them. I expect there are a lot of "dead cell" zones, and not a lot of internet cafes on Route 66. There are stretches where the Interstate must call them back to rapid travel and truck stops. I have no idea where they are staying along the way- I imagine they are doing the budget hotel tour. That way, they can spend their savings on a real home once they get to Illinois.


The other picture is sort of self explanatory, though you will have to sing along- "it's a girl,my lord, in a flat bed Ford, slowing down to lake a look at me"...one of the the next lines is take it easy. Steve tells me Jackson Brown authored the lines, and the Eagles took them to the bank. Now I hope the kids follow this exhortation, and have a safe and wonderful trip.

We are on our way to Michigan, but the house is ready to welcome the weary travelers, whenever they arrive. I expect they would love to arrive without fanfare, finding clean sheets and a quiet house. They will need a few days to unwrinkle their bodies and recover from this
adventure. Life awaits!

Sunday, June 29, 2008

White Sox Save Steve's Vacation!

Baseball has a funny way of defining a summer.  It might not be the scores, or the record, but it is the memories that a man can share with his friends and family.  I was lucky enough to take in the epic battle on Saturday, and the boys made it a 3 game  sweep....come to think of it, so did the Sox.  It is a good thing, because Mike spent a grief inflicting weekend with us just a week ago.  Had I not raised three boys, my ears would still be ringing.  I gave him my best speech about enjoying the moments, and not inviting rage into one's life.  He told me I was nuts.  Maybe I am, because though I really love to go to the park, when I am home, I just track the game online.  The MLB has a site where you can even see the pitch speed and the curve.  It suits me to take a step back when I am not chowing down on hot dogs and gaping at the dugout, which is where I snapped the cute picture of Poppa Oz and his son a few weeks ago.  I meant to use it in a Father's Day blog- but I am on Janet time, as usual.  It is still cute. 

Our seats do not provide a direct look into the dugout, and so I am always pleased to see Oz, Joey Cora and Junior Oz dangling on the rail. Ozzie is a big swivel-headed gaper- I always wonder what/who he is looking for.  I suppose he is scanning for a lovely girl for his sons.  Steve had a chance to move from his current seats to ones down and over- where he could peep at the players.  He loves his seat too much to move. Plus, I think he recalls that I was infatuated with Tim Raines' thighs.  But they traded him!  I am older than everyone in the dugout except maybe Herm  Schneider, the trainer. I hear he has great hands.  But I would rather look at pinstripes.   And as in the case of Mr. Guillen, it is not a crime to look.  Now that my giddy joy at a victorious home stand against the Cubs has made me say these ridiculous things, I doubt if I will ever go to another game.  Steve is pretty serious about his White Sox.  But I have seen him scan the Chevy Pride Crew.  Me, I prefer Southpaw.  

At any rate, thank you White Sox for salvaging Steve's break.  6 losses to the Cubs would have been a catastrophe, 5 would be tragic, and 4 would be despair.  Playing the series even is a gift.  I'll take it!

Saturday, June 28, 2008

Day 2 in Seligman, Arizona


The kids were sad, because Seligman, Arizona was a fun stop on the Dahl tour of 1997.  Angel Degadillo was the barber who shaved Steve, and who maintained the stop on Route 66 that kept the Mother Road alive in this part of Arizona.  Everything was closed when Pat and Rachel drove through town on Friday, but there were burros that were glad for the company and a few treats.  

The next stop is Santa Fe, where a high school friend, Katie Drago, is singing in the summer opera festival. She was a comrade of Pat's at Northwestern, and has toured in the National Company of Phantom. I am not sure I ever taught Pat opera manners- I believe he will be the dude with a lighter, waving back and forth to the music.  Oh, well- no one knows him there.  They will tarry for 2 days, because the country is beautiful there.  Texas and the 32 ounce steak is ahead, then Oklahoma.  Coincidentally, Pat played Ali Hakim, the Persian trader in Oklahoma ! (the musical), some 6 years back.  I'll bet he sings the soundtrack until Rachel jumps out the window.  That might be bad. 

 Sing along... Everything's up to date in Kansas City...they've gone about as fur(and that is how it is written) as they can go......

 That will be a hit when they get to Missouri.

And for you women reading this....Annie Ado sings I'm just a girl who can't say no. Keep your daughters away !!  This play is the devil!!

Musical theater is the one original American theatrical art form.  Sure, we borrowed the notion of opera and made it accessible- but it is 100% American.  You think anyone ever sang about a surrey with fringe on top in Italian?  German?  No way. 

God bless this country, its countryside and roads, and safe travels to the kids.  




Friday, June 27, 2008

First Look from the Mother Road

Day One on the Mother Road- Pat and Rachel


The Mother Road



The first year that Steve worked for CBS, he took a summer adventure trip in an RV on Route 66. He triple tasked: he did a newspaper column, a video blurb, and a 4 hour radio show each day. In addition, he was the only driver, as well as the parental control agent for the boys, who were then 16, 14 and 12. There were probably brushes with death as they drove, or as the boys triple teamed their dad. After a week that started at the Santa Monica pier, and included the Grand Canyon, desert rats skittering across the highway, 32 ounce steaks, a giant ball of rubber bands, Ted Drewes concrete custard, and a homecoming at Del Rhea's Chicken Basket in Willowbrook, the boys had memories galore.

Yesterday, with a pocket full of memories, Patrick and his wife loaded their last belongings onto a moving van in Los Angeles, and jumped into their car. They will be heading home from California, where Pat has toiled for 5 fruitful and enlightening years, and Rachel has taught for the last 2. Their last adventure is to use the Mother Road to see the innards of this great country of ours. Their journey will not be as scheduled as the trip of Pat's youth, but the destination will be the same: HOME. I cannot wait.

Pat now works as an online writer for a sports/fantasy sports aggregation site called Rotoworld, and Rachel will be teaching at a Chicago Charter School. Though Pat went to Hollywood with an 8 year time frame, he decide at the time of the writers' strike that the extra three years would not bring him what he wanted most in life- roots. The industry has shifted its interest from situation comedy to reality programming. The pilot system, which provided Pat many employment opportunities, has been altered. Fewer writers will be hired, and those hired will bunker their positions with added fury. There are not too many hands reaching out to help in Hollywood- it is too darn hard to just hold yourself steady. The kids missed family and friends here-and of course, Pat missed his Bears, Hawks and White Sox.

They will be living in a fairly austere basement "apartment" at the Dahl house until they find a place to make "home". They will have their own space, and a private entrance. I am sure they will not get attached to this situation, and I hope I do not get too attached to having them here. I'll bet that they have forgotten how gray it is here from October to April: all their post-college years have been spent in Arizona and LA. Maybe Steve will encourage them to hit the tanning bed for a Vitamin D infusion. There are so many adventures ahead.

For the moment, I am heading down to the basement to assess and polish the living conditions. Steve's idle studio will soon be Pat's office. I have not told the Big Dog that. I am sure he would bark. Not I.

Tuesday, June 17, 2008

Garden Whisperer


I am not one of those people who devotes hours to gardening once summer comes. We have a nice yard, smallish, and I try to add a jot of color for the summer. We moved in 22 years ago, and before I could blink, Steve had commandeered a pool company to fill most of the grassy area with a large, rectangular pool. There is not a tremendous amount of land left to tame, and so I approach the space in an erratic, Janet pleasing way.


When my boys graduated from college, I used their school colors to anchor my theme. I used purple and white for Pat, orange and blue for Mike (very hard, and not as easy on the eye as I might have wished) and red and blue for Matt. It is an extremely random gardener that selects plants based on universities. This year I am experimenting with a monochromatic theme. I am after a Zen experience. In fact, am copying my sister’s garden from last year. I saw pictures of her beautiful back yard- the back yard I grew up in, in point of fact, and I decided to poach her idea of using discipline in selecting my plants. Which one color would Steve like me to use, I asked. Blue, he replied. Oops. There are not enough different blue flowers for me to “paint” my garden with. Pink is rich with possibilities. And I can add a bit of white. Done.


So I filled the SUV with all sorts of pink and pinkish stuff, and for the last few weeks, I have been transforming my yard, in search of peace. Mind you, I am only one lawn ornament away from being Granny on Beverly Hillbillies.



I have embellished my yard with Steve’s pee-pee boy from It’s Too Early, and though the boys plugged his equipment with sticks years ago, so he no longer flows, he is illuminated with his own light.I have a gryphon gazing upon a bowling ball. Steve hates that bowling ball. There are a few random trellises with morning glories and moonflowers twining upward- I check them every morning to see their new shoots- it amazes me that 3-4 inches appears magically overnight. I have a concrete fountain/birdbath, assorted wind chimes and strings of mirror tiles to reflect and refract the light. The crowning glory is my gazebo- Janet’s folly. I thought I would sit inside it, gazing out at my yard, bug free. Instead, I store the cushions for the patio furniture. I’m going to work on this. At any rate, it is a challenge to create Zen in such a yard.

Plus, I cheated and snuck in a run of blue ageratum for Steve.

Last week I was schlepping, and cultivating and plopping flowers in the ground while Matt lollygagged with his dog, Walter. Then Matt came upon a bird- injured, peeping from the corner of the yard. His St. Francis of Assisi kicked in, and he spent hours attempting to assist it. He dribbled water in its pleading mouth, and before long, he had me digging up worms. Note to birders: baby birds cannot eat worms unless their moms mash them up. I was the pessimist, warning him of the inevitable demise of such a creature. If it could not fly, it would die, I warned, a la Johnny Cochran. It was Nature’s thinning of the herd. But Matt’s reversion to the sweet animal lover warmed my heart. It was like seeing him back in his Osh Kosh days. He sailed off to softball, content with his efforts.

The next morning, I surveyed my moon flowers with a guarded look at the corner- the bird was gone. Dead, I thought. I was wrong. Somehow, Bird Mom had relocated Junior to my window well. Junior could not fly, but hopped around peeping like crazy. For the next few days, that mother bird hovered nearby, pecking for worms, and delivering them to Junior. The extended family chirped encouragement from the trees above. It was a very work intensive life for Ma, but Junior became stronger, and was able to hop up onto the window ledge. I could not resist adding a little cup of water when the weather turned hot, and a nest of sparkle yarn for a bed, when it cooled. I put a little metal shelter in the corner to provide some shade. I worried that its claws would tangle in the yarn- I actually lost sleep. For its part, Junior ate and pooped- birds are really messy. But I could not stop worrying about my patient. Maternal instincts are embedded.

I don’t think my story has a happy ending. Yesterday my window well was empty, and there was a euphoric moment where I believed Junior had winged away. I looked up at the tree, expecting to see a small bird peeping its thanks. I started to clean the window well, discarding the water and hosing the ledge of its souvenir droppings. And I found a sliver of feathered wing. I am not sure a bird could fly without this section. In Janet World, the bird has been relocated, and is learning to overcome its amputation. In the real world, a cat or raccoon probably had brunch. (update..I think I saw Mama trying to teach hop-a-long to fly. That’s my story and I am sticking to it)

With my house guest gone, I cultivated the dirt by the window well and planted a bed of Zen pink impatience. I planted all remaining garden stock in a burst of purpose. The front porch was spruced up. Flowers were watered, walks swept, fountain treated with chemicals and dog run washed down. Bird Hotel Janet will now attempt to turn her attention to cleaning the gazebo and figuring out a place for the grapevine balls with twinkle lights that are currently dangling from the cross beams of Janet’s folly. Maybe I will find time to experience Zen. But I am also considering covering the bowling ball with mosaic tiles and grouting it. Peace is elusive in my yard.

Saturday, June 14, 2008

Happy Father's Day

I am the beneficiary of life with a very good Father. He was a 50-60's Dad- expectations were high, generally unstated, and punishments were expected for deviations. The minor deviations were being late for curfew, bad manners at the table, or leaving some sort of mess. The punishments for those infractions were, correlatively, grounding, a knife blade to the knuckles followed by banishment from the table, and chores. There was no negotiating. Life was simple. The biggest infraction in my family was mouthing off, and of course, I had the biggest mouth of all. Mom tended to be a face slapper when confronted with sass- she even punished non-verbal communication, such as an eyebrow lift, with the swift right. Dad hated to be the enforcer, but his arsenal included spanking in the traditional manner, and the hybrid of a spank for every step as he marched us up to our rooms. As you can imagine, the Joliat kids were noted for their compliant behavior. We marched into church every Sunday, back pew, and behaved like the Trapp family singers after Maria got her hands on them. This behavior was required for survival: eight of us lived in a small space, and peace was essential.

Steve and I detoured a bit from this child-rearing model when the kids were little. His workday was not conventional. He spent most weekends on the road, playing with Teenage Radiation, and as a fringe benefit, partying madly. For the kids, this meant that there were few absolutes- with 3 boys I adopted the "be nice" standard, but I never really had a punch list of expectations or consequences. Unlike my childhood home, there was enough space for me to banish a child who was bugging me or a sibling. I was pretty elastic, and the boys were pretty good. Then they became teenagers. Boys in puberty. I was not equipped. At this precise moment, Steve buckled down, stopped drinking, and provided a rigid and immovable bumper for those boys to bounce off of. It was another moment when I realized that I married my dad. Steve waited up for the Testosterone posse while I slept. He barked. He knew what they were plotting before the plan was launched. For our combined efforts, we have three men we are very proud of. I have a husband that I treasure as a partner in this most important realm: parenthood.

We still differ in our parental techniques. Of course, the boys are wise enough to exploit our varied styles to get what they want...sometimes. What they want generally comes from Steve these days, so I am off the hook. (except when Matt wants to visit with his vagabond dog, Walter..or worse yet, when he wants us to dog-sit. I am soft for that mongrel, and Steve is rabid in his antipathy, so Matt still works me like the devil) I am sure that Pat, Matt and Mike completely agree with the maxim that the best gift a Dad can give his kids is to love their Mother. This core of love, wicking down, provides the best security a kid can have. It means that they have a foundation, knit with resolve and determination, that can absorb every kind of hell that life holds. I had it. My boys have it. This unspoken gift is so precious that we sometimes fail to appreciate it. Today is the day for acknowledging this gift of stability and love. It is a day for thanks.


Thanks, Dad. Thanks, Steve. Happy Father's Day.

Friday, June 6, 2008

A Very Special Hybrid Vehicle-click here

Patrick sent me this very funny story, but he was especially taken with the dog. I think the fellow pictured has customized his vehicle, and this undoubtedly reduces the miles per case of beer ratio. (MPC?)

This police department adheres to the Letter of the Law, and not the spirit of Fun in the Sun. And this is a driver who is powerless to change his behavior, but has not lost his sense of creativity. It appears he has a well trained (though lazy) Labrador Retriever. I hope Mabel does not look over my shoulder while I have the link open. She would demand her on Cruzin Cooler trailer.

Wednesday, June 4, 2008

Happy Birthday Mike

The little boy appearing in his high chair, eating choke-inducing hot dogs while making a "pig face" is now 25 years old. It's a wonder he made it- look at the safety violations in one picture: peeling varnish, encased meats, play pen mobile ready to crash down, large plastic suffocation threatening bib, a large dog ready to deprive him of nutrition. And the wardrobe! No Mother of the Year for me!

Anyway, Happy Birthday, Michael! Mike will be sharing the evening with the White Sox and his Dad, but I would be remiss if I did not use this new locale to acknowledge the day. Mike has kept me on my toes for all of these 25 years, and has taught me both patience and persistence. Mike works harder at his job and his social life than most human beings. Every one who deals with Mike knows he is an unstoppable force once he sets his compass. Relax, Mike- enjoy yourself, and many happy and healthy days in the year to come.

Now my boys' birthday circuit is complete. Pat is 27, Mike 25, and Matt 23. All of my men were born in the spring; I guess I am more romantic in the summer. We are trying to shift into "adult" celebrations- with fewer gifts and less fanfare. The boys fight us on this, of course, but we will continue to ratchet down. I can no longer select clothing with confidence that they will ever take the tags off. Electronics are hit and miss. Matt is tolerant of my silly t shirts and theme gifts, but I think he is indulging me. Mike is practical: he will assemble an Amazon list and forward it to me. Few surprises will happen on the big day, but there will be few awkward requests for sales receipts, either. Matt HAS trained me to stop with the Simpsons boxers and pajama pants- I understand now that he may feel shy about such apparel in his bachelor life. I still fondly recall my boys in Underoos... and Batman pajamas, complete with capes. Patrick is now the easiest going about birthday fanfare, perhaps because the wedding celebration was such a production that birthdays pale. He has been working from home for 6 months, and I figure Simpsons boxers and a Hanes Tagless T shirt are business casual for him. He is glad of a cash infusion at Birthday Time. He was wary of large scale parties when he was growing up. We booked a Care Bear visit for his second birthday, and that Bear was way too big and pink for Pat. Birthday Bear was banished, Pat was calmed and cake was delicious.

What every birthday celebrant wants is to have a day that is only his. Christmas is fun, but you have to share. Birthdays are only about YOU! Well, sorry, Mike- I neglected to write about Matt and Pat on their days- so again, you have to share with your brothers. You guys are all special. I remember when Mr. Rogers had the job of telling you that, and I am glad to take over for him.

Have a great night with Dad and the Sox; I hope they give you a Win. Tomorrow we will have Round 2 of the celebration with a family dinner. Your Mikefest will wrap up this weekend at your birthday beer fest. Enjoy every minute. Be moderate. Like your gifts.

Monday, June 2, 2008

Sorry

I want to write something clever or at least interesting, but I am laid low by some sort of sinusitis/conjunctivitis that has me sounding like I have TB, and looking unfit for human contact.  Sad to say, life goes on, and I have subjected my friends and my Village Board co-workers to my frightening self.  I am on the 4th day of a Z-pack, and have become proficient at eye drops-soon I will be 100%.  Then I shall weigh in on my journey to see Sex and The City with 9 of my friends.  Steve sighed a huge sigh of relief that I would not exact such a painful evening from him.    Of course, he missed Samantha with nothing but strategically placed sushi on her naked, prone body. Thank God.